Even Karan Johar, who calls himself a ‘feminist’, doesn’t understand that ‘no means no’


Ae Dil Hai Mushkil, his most recent directorial success, became known for many things but unfortunately, its story wasn’t one of them

Sure, it had memorable songs that you still lie awake listening to (Channa Mereya, anyone?) and you remain mesmerised by how beautiful Anushka Sharma, Aishwarya Rai Bachchan, and especially Fawad Khan looked

But the movie’s plot was pretty mainstream, and quite frankly, disturbing

Ranbir Kapoor’s Ayan meets Sharma’s Alizeh and eventually falls in love with her

However, Alizeh never reciprocates his feelings and only sees him for the friend that he is to her, refusing his advances throughout the movie until she literally dies

That’s it

That’s the whole movie

The movie exists to act as a shoulder to cry on for men who find themselves in the infamous ‘friend zone’

The entire film is pretty much Ayan going after Alizeh, pursuing her despite repeatedly being told an explicit no

He sings a song expressing his love to her while attending her wedding as a guest, and tries his luck yet again as she is dealing with her cancer diagnosis

Clearly, the protagonist here doesn’t realise that ‘no means no’, and that being nice to a woman who is your friend does not mean the woman owes you anything in exchange

Did Johar really expect us to side with a man-child who did not understand what consent is and what platonic relationships entail? Fast forward a couple of years after the movie’s release, we thought we had erased the horrors from our mind completely, until a recent interview of Johar brought it all back

 The director/writer claimed he killed off Alizeh as a form of karma because she did not love Ayan back, who had loved her so much throughout and deserved his romantic feelings to be reciprocated

 Johar stated, “Yes, the last track met with many polarised responses and rightfully so, but I was like she didn’t love him, she has to die

I wrote this character

He loved her so crazily

She could’ve loved him back, why couldn’t she? So she got cancer and she died

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com/SoKneeOh/status/1088356337757507584 To be honest, the ending was perhaps the worst part of the disaster that was this movie

It made no sense to kill Alizeh off like that; in fact, an abrupt ending would have made far more sense

You could have put Baby Shark instead of the ending and it would still make a more interesting and satisfying conclusion to whatever the audience spent almost three hours watching

Taking it a step further, Johar explains how the death was appropriate because according to him, if you are inexpressive, you can develop a tumour

Apparently, your personal dynamics and keeping all your emotions bottled up inside can cause blockages in your heart

Meanwhile, scientists all over the world are burning their degrees as we speak

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com/UTariq09/status/1088498810953891841 Jokes aside, Johar’s reasoning behind his decision to kill Alizeh hints at something far more sinister

He seems to be under the impression that unrequited love must be punished, and the suggestion that Alizeh deserved to actually die a painful death if she could not love Ayan back is yet another instance of men being encouraged to react negatively if their feelings are not returned with enthusiasm

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com/themadrasponnu/status/1088880215051268096 How dare Alizeh deprive her friend from getting into her pants (even when she is suffering from cancer and is nearing the end of her life) when he was so nice to her and loved her throughout? The disgusting and ignorant mentality displayed here, and that too by a man in Johar’s position – one of the most influential filmmakers of his generation – is disconcerting and reveals a lot about why women find themselves in the state we are in

It would have been better if Johar had simply stated he killed Alizeh off for the drama or the surprise quotient, instead of letting us know that even a fictional woman in a bad movie had to suffer in life and death as a form of punishment for not loving the male protagonist back

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com/Saisailu97/status/1088484791983489025 In the real world we all live in, we see regular instances of what men in our society are capable of when they don’t get what they want

Women are beaten, raped, attacked with acid, and even murdered for the simple act of saying ‘no’ to marriage proposals

In the midst of a worsening climate, why would you add fuel to a conflagration? But then again, Johar is already so far up on the ladder of privilege, it does seem unrealistic to expect some thought and nuance from a male director evidently unwilling to recognise the reality women live with

However, what makes this ironic, and frankly hypocritical, is that Johar has openly declared himself a feminist

He claims to have been raised by women, which is why feminism comes naturally to him, and has also publicly spoken out against item songs and the objectification of women

Yet here he is, writing female characters only to fulfil male desires and then killing them off when those fantasies are not met

Is his ‘feminism’ just a ‘fad’ for point-scoring? Is Johar yet another celebrity who tries to be politically correct but does not fully comprehend what feminism and supporting women actually entail? After all, the recent controversy that took place during his show alongside cricketers Hardik Pandya and KL Rahul is proof that Johar’s words are wind while his actions are damning and reveal where his allegiances truly lie

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com/nosheenali/status/1088776424792698885 On another note, Johar could have killed off Kapoor in the start so we wouldn’t have to go through the torture of watching him mope around in the ‘friend zone’

Or put Khan on the cinema screen for three straight hours, for literally no one would complain

Also, in what world can we believe that after witnessing the angelic beauty possessed by Ali (Khan), Ayan honestly thought he still had a chance? What Johar has said may seem harmless, but hints at the sexism and misogyny entrenched in an industry where male writers and directors are responsible for writing female characters that millions then watch and learn from

Not to mention that an adult man taking his own failed romantic history out on a fictional female character as an act of vengeance seems quite petty and alarming when one remembers how successful Johar is in the industry

In the books of history, Ae Dil Hai Mushkil should definitely be ranked Johar’s worst movie ever, particularly after this added context we have been provided with

However, anyone who has seen the abomination that was Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna will certainly find it in themselves to disagree



Date:29-Jan-2019 Reference:View Original Link