As a woman, I admired the bravado of these students
Mainly because ever since we were kids, we’re told that since we are the ‘weaker/fairer’ sex, we shouldn’t: “Wear too much make-up”, “Wear a dupatta this way” “Wear such high heels”, “Don’t talk so loudly’, Oh yeah, and, “When on your period, channel your inner Jane Bond
” Maybe the men don’t get the whole psyche that’s inbuilt women from the age their periods start
The society has some sort of a state of emergency when it comes to women’s periods
Women are told that periods are ‘dirty’ and ‘not a pious state of being’
So, in case someone finds out that you’re on your period: cue horror
Whatever will they think of you? Whatever will they say? Sanitary napkins are wrapped in brown paper bags at the grocery stores and supermarkets in such severe secrecy, as if they’re drugs or alcohol in a dry country like Pakistan
Oh and it’s totally okay to lie when you’re on your period? If in case, because of your periods or co-morbid symptoms, you are unable to do something, please feel free to lie
Popular favourites are, “But my head aches!” or “I think I’ve got food poisoning” etc etc
Telling someone that you’re on your period is a taboo, a sin, a problem, a social evil
I wish for someone to inform the masses that, according to psychologists, pre/post menstrual syndrome can bring about many symptoms, such as depression, bloating and nausea
Therefore it’s in the person’s, as well as the people around them, best interest to be informed of the accompanying symptoms
This campaign met with a lot of hate
And many of the critics said that this is an ‘elitya’ problem
They elaborate that the ‘real problems’ that plague women are acid attacks and honour killing, and that this should be disregarded for being elitist
But just consider this for a second; the people behind this campaign never said they’re on a mission to solve every problem that has ever been encountered by any woman
Nor did they make any claims about their campaign being representational for all women
These young students that belong to a relatively well-to-do university, only wanted to create awareness for problems that they themselves face on a day-to-day basis
The fact remains, that there are serious diseases that are associated to menstruation, such as dysmenorrhea, polycystic ovary syndrome and migraines
However, women will shy away from addressing such problems because the topic is too ‘embarrassing’
She never has the courage to ask for help or seek treatment
Critics say these are problems of the privileged
And to some extent I agree
Many women in Pakistan who celebrate the word ‘feminism’ have pretty much exploited the term to their own benefit
For example, there are some ‘feminists’ who have acquired an expensive education, handed money to spend as they please, and various other luxuries
This is all from living off of their fathers and, soon after, a suitable husband
They become comfortable begum sahibas who hire underage maids to cater to their children, and hire drivers to take them to kitty parties and lawn exhibitions
When someone like that chants ‘feminism’, it is indeed difficult to take them seriously
Yet the fact remains that the menstrual cycle is something every woman goes through
Whether she’s a queen or a princess, a health worker (who’s on her feet pretty much 18 hours a day) or a university student who has to hide her physical discomfort during an exam or a big presentation
And they all have to go about their lives pretending there’s nothing going on with their ovaries
Maybe it’s about time they want to talk about it? Maybe all women want to talk about it? Maybe they don’t want to be considered dirty just because their bodies are undergoing something natural
It’s nothing to be ashamed of
As human beings, do we consider ourselves dirty for our entire lives just because we poop or pass urine? Then why does a woman have to pretend to be an undercover agent just because she’s on her period? These are young kids who want to bring everyone’s attention to an important social taboo and I find nothing wrong with that
These are young kids who will be tomorrow’s parents – and they won’t, I hope, harangue and harass their kids about the same taboos the way our parents have
When the elite and the privileged want attention, they get it
And sure, they don’t ‘get’ what ‘real’ pain is
Yet to discard their effort completely, merely on this premise can be dangerous; the woman living in the farm, with a family to feed, working under the harshest possible conditions, who can’t even find the time, the energy and the resources to find a decent school for her kids – do we expect her to start an awareness campaign on the taboos related to the menstrual cycle? On the flipside, while there’s a bourgeoisie feminist cliche that exists in Pakistan, there’s a ghairat brigade that jumps at the opportunity of lambasting anyone who attempts to talk about women’s rights
For example, “Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy is making these social awareness movies to defame Pakistan
But, the man who is spewing hatred against her and brainwashing generations that women are forms of commodity – such a man cannot be criticised
” Oh no
That’d be blasphemy
The question is, if a woman wants to sit at a dhaba and drink tea, what’s your problem? If a woman wants to run a dhaba in the village, what’s your problem? If a woman wants to prove that the menstrual cycle is a normal occurrence and the reason behind mankind thriving and avoiding extinction – what’s your problem? Why should a woman be ashamed of being on her period? Is it not a regular biological happening? Shouldn’t our daughters and sisters know about menstrual cycles and everything about it from a very young age? And what kind of ‘values’ does an awareness campaign threaten, anyway? The values that allow women to be killed in the name of honour? Where mullahs come out on streets against a bill that protects women? Too long have we associated women with honour in a way that has harmed no one else but women
Values and culture aside, there are people who want the hollow slogans regarding ‘honour’ to disappear
They question these codes of morality that hypocritically only apply to women
They are the people who want women to stop being the victims of a society’s so-called honour
These people are brave people indeed
If this oppression represents the true values of our society, then these values need to be eliminated – only for the positive and progressive evolution of society itself
Every person who talks for women and their rights is respectable
And every person who believes that all sexes are equal and wants to advocate such equality, should be given plenty of space to speak, to campaign
You may disagree, you may offer your criticisms – but you cannot say, “Why are they talking about it? Why do they want this problem to even be highlighted?” In the words of the poet, Shik’va e zulmat-e-shab se toh kaheen behtar tha Apne hissayh ki koi sham’a jalaatay jaatay (You woe the darkness of the night Tis better had you lit the way) This post originally appeared here in Urdu
Date: | 17-Apr-2016 | Reference: | View Original Link |
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